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DEAR HARRIETTE: I've recently gone sober for health reasons, and it wasn't an easy decision, especially because my social life has always involved going out for drinks, celebrating with cocktails and bonding over happy hour. When my friends and I went out last weekend, they were pressuring me to drink. I ordered a mocktail, and almost immediately, my friends started to laugh and said that it would be fine to just have one drink. This surprised me because I never thought that my friends would try to force me to do something that would actively have a negative effect on my health. It made me feel unsupported and, frankly, disrespected. At the same time, I don't want to lose my friendships or isolate myself socially just because I'm choosing not to drink. Now I'm anxious about future outings. I don't want every dinner or celebration to turn into a debate about my personal choices. How should I talk to my friends about setting boundaries without making things awkward? -- Sober

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Dear Eric: My husband and his ex-wife have 50/50 custody of their 15-year-old son. I despise this child. He is completely useless, rude, disrespectful, selfish, ungrateful and lazy. All he does is stare at his computer screen. I have carefully planned my entire life schedule around his schedule, to avoid being at the house on the days he is there for my husband's 50 percent custody.

My husband has just told me that his ex-wife is moving to another state far away and that he is going to take full custody of his son. This means the child I despise so much is now going to be living with me at my house full time, every single day, and there's nothing I can do about it. My husband refuses to let his son move away with his ex. How do I manage this?

– Fed Up

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a Canada goose, sitting on grass, looking peeved

The geese have returned! This one was NOT happy to see me.

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https://www.cakewrecks.com/home/im-irish-but-dont-you-dare-kiss-me-2026

It's nice to see bakeries really getting into the St. Patrick's Day spirit this week:

By which I mean they've clearly been drinking.

This is one week I'd actually kind of love to work in these bakeries. I wouldn't be drinking, though; I'd just be egging on all the drunk bakers.

I'd be all, "Hey, guys, you know what we need? JEWISH LEPRECHAUNS."

And they'd be all, "OMG JEN YOU ARE SO SMART AND PRETTY BUT MOSTLY SMART."

Sha-POW!

Then I'd hold relay races where all the drunk bakers have to ice a cake with their elbows and pipe on the side swags with their teeth:

Ker-PLOOIE!

Next I'd get them all to do that thing where someone stands behind you and and you pretend their arms are your arms and play icing Pictionary:

Bam! Zap! Ni!

And finally, I'd just be overly enthusiastic about everything they made, no matter HOW terrible, kind of like your favorite aunt acted when you were four:

[shrieking] THIS IS THE BEST SHAMROCK CAKE I HAVE EVER SEEN. Who wants more beer?

[gasp] Did you use the airbrush? WAY TO GO, YOU! And did you cut out that paper pot of gold yourself? You DID?! Well, now, who's a big boy? WHO IS IT?!

I have never wanted to kiss a red UFO more.

Yep, I'm telling you, guys, that would be a HOOT.

Now, y'all have fun today, and be safe, and remember:

Easter wrecks are next.

Thanks to Tamara H., Dan B., Lindsay B., Timothy E., Dara M., Courtney L., Jessica D., & Amanda M., for the sobering selections. ;)

*****

And from my other blog, Epbot:

https://www.cakewrecks.com/home/im-irish-but-dont-you-dare-kiss-me-2026

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Posting on behalf of

pressitout, who is the host for April.

Here are the choices for the April read:

The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones 305 Pages - Seamlessly blending classic horror and a dramatic narrative with sharp social commentary, The Only Good Indians follows four American Indian men after a disturbing event from their youth puts them in a desperate struggle for their lives. Tracked by an entity bent on revenge, these childhood friends are helpless as the culture and traditions they left behind catch up to them in a violent, vengeful way. Warnings: Animal Death, Body Horror, Death, Gore/Violence, Hate Crimes/Racism, Murder, Miscarriage (Animal), Police Brutality
url: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52180399-the-only-good-indians

A Magic Steeped in Poison by Judy I. Lin 384 Pages - This debut novel follows Ning, a common girl with a tragic past. After unknowingly brewing poison tea that killed her mother, she now fears for her sister’s life. Ning enters a royal tea-making competition, hoping to win a favor to save her sister. However, court politics and betrayal complicate her path. Content Warnings: Death (Human/Animal), War
url: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56978089-a-magic-steeped-in-poison

The Tao of Martha: My Year of LIVING; Or, Why I'm Never Getting All That Glitter Off of the Dog by Jen Lancaster 335 Pages - Jen Lancaster finally starts getting her crap together in this book where she spends a year following the guide that is Martha Stewart. From Easter, to 4th of July, to Christmas, all are contained in this book, and along the way she might learn a thing or two. Or she might give kids way too much sugar and cause a hospital visit. Content Warnings: Animal Death
url: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15808650-the-tao-of-martha

Poll #34377 April 2026 Books

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The Only Good Indians
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The Tao of Martha
1 (11.1%)

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https://savage.love/?p=11736

A kinky submissive woman’s last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a 24/7, power exchange all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn’t have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future? A married man despairs that he’ll … Read More »

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https://savage.love/?p=11740

I’m a 50-year-old married bisexual American man living in Europe with my wife and kids. The “bi” part of me is still extremely new. Two years ago, I started seeing a sex-positive therapist to address my significant interest (and feelings of guilt about) kink and BDSM. Long story short, I admitted to myself that I … Read More »

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If not perfect, then this

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erinptah

Two offers:

1) Anybody want a small postage scale?

Works on items up to 5 pounds. I used it on Leif & Thorn shipments for a few years, but packages with the full backlist weigh 11+ pounds at this point. (The scale I use now works up to 90 pounds. It'll last me a while.)

If you're in the US, I'll mail it to you for free. Just DM me a shipping address. First person who asks will get it -- I'll update this post if/when it's claimed.

(If you're outside the US, the shipping cost will be so high that you're better off just buying one.)

2) Anybody want a paid Dreamwidth account?

Comment and say so. No other requirements. I'll send 350 DW points (enough to buy all the Paid Account extra features for 1 year) to the first 10 commenters who ask.

Every time a news story comes out about other social-media sites kicking their users in the shins, I appreciate DW a little more. Right now, I want to show that appreciation with money. Help me out by giving me something to spend it on.

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madokamagicaheritageposts:

homura:
today is march 16th which is the start of homura’s month and a half timeloop. on april 30th when she fails to defeat walpurgisnacht and save madoka she will return to this day to start over.

Madoka Magica Heritage Post

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acephysicskarkat:

big shout out to tumblr for being the first major site in like two years to implement an ill-advised “feature” nobody wants, likes or respects that doesn’t involve AI

https://melannen.tumblr.com/post/811293508315021312

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https://xkcd.com/3220/

I don't get it. The peak acceleration for passengers was WAY lower than in the giant-waterslide-loop-the-loop incident the other cruise line fired me for.

https://xkcd.com/3220/

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honestlydarkprincess:

to celebrate the ides of march this year tumblr decided to stab its users in the back

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256x224-deactivated20240130:

antlershade:
256x224-deactivated20240130:
I go outside regularly
no you don’t
okay fine I go outside weirdly

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⌈ Secret Post #7010 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 29 secrets from Secret Submission Post #1001.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

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Today we’ll be kicking off a new, ongoing series - in between regularly scheduled posts by the Fanhackers team, we will offer guest posts by a number of prominent fan studies scholars.

We are inviting them to tell us about a critical work, theorist, or piece of fan studies that is useful to them - not the best one, or even their favorite one, but the one they build with or build their work or thinking on: their “go-to” piece of criticism.

We asked them for a quote and a bit of an explanation as to its importance. We hope you enjoy hearing the results as much as we did!

First up: Paul Booth.

Paul Booth is a professor of Media and Pop Culture at DePaul University, and a prolific fan studies scholar - his recent books include Entering the Multiverse (Routledge, 2025), Adventures Across Space and Time: A Doctor Who Reader (Bloomsbury, 2023), Board Games as Media  (Bloomsbury, 2021); The Fan Studies Primer  (University of Iowa Press, 2021); Watching Doctor Who  (Bloomsbury, 2019); and the Wiley Companion to Media Fandom and Fan Studies (Wiley, 2018). Along with Rukmini Pande, his is the series editor of the Bloomsbury Fandom Primers. His response is below:

“Even if any given terminology is a reflection of reality, by its very nature it must be a selection of reality; and to this extent it must function as a deflection of reality.” (45)

From: Kenneth Burke, “Terministic Screens,” Language as Symbolic Action: Essays on Life, Literature and Method (University of California Press, 1966)

I’ve taken the liberty of picking a quotation I don’t use much in my research (although it influences me more than almost any other!), but rather one I use in my teaching quarter after quarter after quarter. Burke’s discussion here about how technology both guides what we view and always what we don’t view (e.g., what stories ignore, what stakeholders want us to forget) has implications not just for media and technology, but also for fandom. Fans often focus on the the things left out - the “deflection of reality” Burke talks about. Fans create stories in the margins, outside the line of sight for narrative, media technology, and more. At the same time, fandom provides new reflections, new selections, and ultimately new deflections as well: creating and making in different contexts but still, and always leaving things out. Fan studies research (and media studies more generally) is important because it helps us identify those deflections; to recognize and to combat them.

- Paul Booth, Professor of Media and Pop Culture, DePaul University

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Pros Newsletter #914 – March 09 to 16
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♠ Mainstream Media

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♠ News, Announcements & Updates
♣ The Archive of Our Own has now 4405 stories, graphics and song videos archived
♣ SquidgeWorld Archive has now 83 stories
♣ ci5_boxoftricks krisserci5 posted Weekly check in post!!!
♣ teaandswissroll macklingirl posted Guess the Episode

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Hint

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Solution and Winners

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♠ Fan Fiction - Stories

macklingirl posted Friday the 13th – Soulmates
\Ao/ Lucy410 posted Sexy Sunday
\Ao/ Macklingirl posted Soulmates

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♠ Current Challenges (inc. multi-fandom)

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macklingirl posted Guess the Episode

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Hint

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Solution and Winners

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krisserci5 posted Weekly check in post!!!

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byslantedlight posted Discovered in the Wassail Bowl - Calendar of Links

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sc_fossil posted New Discord Channel, Updated Invite Link New Discord Channel, Updated Invite Link
lugiadepression posted Half thousand! What a milestone!🤩🥳 - The Professionals Community

lugiadepression posted Summer Heat event starts today—The Pros Discord Community

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tinturtle posted Reading Room: The Persistence of Memory

tinturtle posted After Lifetime Fic Bingo || After Lifetime Fic Bingo

tinturtle posted A New Game: The Million-Word Fanfic Challenge || A New Game: The Million-Word Fanfic Challenge

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creepy_shetan posted Lonely Prompts Sunday, Weeks 11 [LJ Edition] Free for All Saturday, Week 11 [LJ Edition] Thursday: Markings [LJ Edition] Tuesday: Small Things [LJ Edition] || Lonely Prompts Sunday, Weeks 11 [DW Edition] Free for All Saturday, Week 11 [DW Edition] Thursday: Markings [DW Edition] Tuesday: Small Things [DW]

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flaskbringer posted Fancake Theme for March: Siblings

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reeby10 posted characters20in20 Round 21

fandomcalendar [Bad username: toothpastepancake ] posted Sunset Archive's Femslash Refresh Prompt Fest 2026

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flareonfury posted Round 14 is now open!

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firebatvillain posted Multifandom: Bite-Sized Fandoms Exchange 2026 - Nominations Open!

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Hint

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Solution and Winners

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abriefingwithmichael posted The Professionals - 9 pm
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Facebook BritScreen Legends posted 144. Martin Shaw starred in the television series The Professionals which first aired on ITV in 1977.
Facebook Seventies Time-Machine posted What a handsome pair - Who was your favourite?
Facebook BritScreen Legends posted The Professionals ITV 1977 emerged as a dominant force in the television.
Facebook Mysterious Past posted Veteran actor Martin Shaw stepped into the deeply complicated, morally unyielding shoes of an old-school detective.
Facebook Classic TV Moments posted Back in the day, British television produced some absolute classic shows, and these three — all starting in the 1970s — are all fondly remembered..
Facebook British And Irish TV And Film posted Lewis Collins (1946–2013) remains one of the most respected leading men in the history of British cinema,.
Facebook Seventies Time-Machine posted Minder, The Professionals, The Sweeney. Do you have a favourite?.
Facebook Celebrating British & Irish Entertainment: Classic & Current posted Some of the superb cast of David Wickes' Jack The Ripper..
Facebook BritScreen Legends posted Martin Shaw took on the title role in the series Inspector George Gently starting in 2007. The show is set in the 1960s.
Facebook Herci, filmy, pohádky 🍀 • posted To byli frajeři Bodie a Doyle.
Twitter / X Cream posted Happy Birthday Brad of the brilliant account . Fitting that I post English actor Lewis Collins as tough CI5 operative William Bodie in The Professionals 1977-1983.
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macklingirl posted Guess the Episode

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macklingirl posted Challenge Guess the Episode - Hint

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♠ Miscellaneous

♠ Internet Groups Roundup (active Pros content & discussions from this week)

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Martin Shaw - News and Resources

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New especially "intelligent" (check the names) fake profiles for our collection. Please report and block! Thanks.
"Timewatch" S14E04 "The Life and Loves of Oscar Wilde" (BBC 1995) will be on BBC4 again on 22.-23.march.
Voice of Oscar Wilde + clips from "An Ideal Husband".

So happy to see A Man For All Seasons going out again. Well deserved. Here’s my review from its opening in Bath in 2025. The journey down from Edinburgh was well worth it.
Other posts

Judge John Deed

Inspector George Gently

CI5 Agent 4-5 Ray Doyle closed group
Martin Shaw - Renaissance Man closed group

The Official Lewis Collins Fansite

Lewis Collins

Lewis Collins Tribute Group
Morning all. Remembering the prolific writer Roger Marshall who was born on this day in 1934. From Invasion & The Avengers to The Professionals & The Sweeney, Marshall's work endures and continues to be enjoyed.
I love this facial expression of Lewis…!
This photo is taken from the tv show „This is your life“ 1982, the episode with him and his family and friends was fantastic!
Lots of untitled posts

Lewis Collins Tribute

CI5 AGENT 3-7 Bodie closed group
Who Dares Wins - The Final Option - film closed group
Lewis Collins - Actor and Adventurer closed group
Lewis Collins Best Actor closed group

Doyle and bodie the professionals

The Professionals

Bodie & Doyle

Steven Streetin Original Art
Die Profis/The Professionals
closed group
CI5: The Professionals closed group
CI5 The Professionals, Cowley, Doyle, Bodie. closed group
The Professionals (1977–1983) closed group
Bodie & Doyle: Welcome to Ci5 Headquarters closed group
The Professionals CI5 closed group
THE PROFESSIONALS closed group
CI5: The Professionals Cowley, Doyle, Bodie closed group
THE PROFESSIONALS Criminal Intelligence 5 closed group
Mirrored entry is HERE. Thank you all for your help!

Have any Pros fandom news you'd like to include? Leave me a comment here. Please, tell me if I made any mistakes or left something off!

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everyonewasabird:

everyonewasabird:
everyonewasabird:
everyonewasabird:
Happy Godzilla Day to all who celebrate!! 🏢🏢🦖
“All who celebrate” is just me and my sister
Godzilla Day came about when my sister was in college. We didn’t have much of a religious upbringing, and someone was trying to explain to her something about March 16th and John 3:16, and “God so loved the world.”
My sister wasn’t familiar with that phrase and heard “Godzillas of the world”
We’ve been celebrating Godzilla Day on 3/16 ever since

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As some of you already know, our wonderful

minoanmiss left us on March 3rd. Her loved ones asked us not to make any public announcements for reasons involving her family of origin, but we've been given permission to announce to the community now.

Those here in

agonyaunt will remember her for her contributions from Ask A Manager, and her insightful comments on family, found family, and other topics. The wider fannish community will remember her for her amazing fiction and her art, particularly her drawings of Minoan culture. Others will remember her for her amazing fruitcake and other culinary adventures.

sabotabby created this lovely portrait. I think I will try to remember her this way.

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Posted by Jen

https://www.cakewrecks.com/home/cloverfield-scares-2026

Tomorrow's the day, everyone!

Yep, the day when bakers try - and mostly fail - to remember what a shamrock looks like.

Here, I'll give you a hint:

NOT THIS.

OR THIS.

They're also not lumpy Xs:

Broccoli stalks:

Wonky crosses:

Or cacti!

Got all that?

Ok... GO.

See, now you're just screwing with me.

Tell you what, bakers, just go back to making leprechauns.

I mean pots of gold.

I mean rainbows.

OH NEVER MIND.

Thanks to Sheree K., Jerod J., Marisa F., Vanessa L., Paula P., Adrienne L., Julie S., Liz, Michael L., & Cara D. for proving there IS such a thing as too much green beer.

*****

And from my other blog, Epbot:

https://www.cakewrecks.com/home/cloverfield-scares-2026

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goose on the loose

I'm Irish, But Don't You Dare Kiss Me

April 2026 Book Voting

Masochistic Macaque

Homework

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Two offers (postage scale + DW Points)

madokamagicaheritageposts: homura:today is march 16th which is...

big shout out to tumblr for being the first major site in like two years to implement an ill-advised

Rotational Gravity

to celebrate the ides of march this year tumblr decided to stab its users in the back

I go outside regularly

[ SECRET POST #7010 ]

Your Go-To Piece of Criticism: Paul Booth

Pros Newsletter #914 – March 09 to 16

Happy Godzilla Day to all who celebrate!! 🏢🏢🦖

Happy Godzilla Day to all who celebrate!! 🏢🏢🦖

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